Fatal Stabbing

From the “Star Tribune”

The fatal stabbing of a Minneapolis bar patron followed gay-bashing comments made by the victim, witness says.

A witness said Monday that the 47-year-old man who was fatally stabbed while standing outside a Minneapolis bar ignited the deadly melee with a gay-bashing comment directed at the defendant, who is being charged as a man but is undergoing gender transition.

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‘Transsexual countess’ jailed

From Wembley and Kingsbury Times:

A TRANSSEXUAL and self-styled countess has been jailed for four and a half years for conning the council out of hundreds of thousands of pounds in benefits

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Gay Pride Parade

‘Heartwood’ writes on a well-known transgender forum:

One time I went to a gay pride parade where anyone that was gay got half off on food and such. (It was more of a festival really) and so I went because I thought it might be pretty cheap and the thought of gay men giving me food gave me the willies, but in a good way, you know? Anyways, I asked if they gave out food to transgender people and they said no, so I said I was actually gay. They figured I was lying, so I had to go home and I put on some colorful clothing and came back, but when I came back, they said I could just have some on the house, as long as I stopped making homosexuals look bad, whatever that means. 🙂

It was great. I’m pretty hungry now, actually.

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Neo-Nazi Faces Death Penalty, Says Crimes Spurred by Gender Identity Confusion

From Associated Press via ‘Edge, Boston MA’:

Spisak was convicted of three murders at Cleveland State University over a seven-month period in 1982 – crimes he said were motivated by his hatred of gays, blacks and Jews. At the same time, Spisak claimed his crimes were sparked by mental illness related to confusion about his sexual identity. He wants to have surgery to become a woman.

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Self-deception

From Wikipedia:

Self-deception is a process of denying or rationalizing away the relevance, significance, or importance of opposing evidence and logical argument. Self-deception involves convincing oneself of a truth (or lack of truth) so that one does not reveal any self-knowledge of the deception.

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A Transvestite, a Homosexual and a Transsexual…

janepf writes:

harry benjamin said… the transvestite has a social problem, the homosexual has a sexual problem and the transsexual has an identity problem…

he was a lovely gentle caring man who although as smart as smart can be, his views were from the outside looking in. I think it is very close to the truth of it, but not quite.

In my own experience i had to confront each of HB’s many combinations of these core symptoms in order to find myself according to the medical world measurments and categorisations of the transsexual personality.. It was scary and self confronting but in the end only confirmed what i already knew anyway..

i always remember one of my childhood conscious identifications about myself was when i was 8 years old and delivered the weekend british tabloids. I read a front page article about a person who was outed as being a transvestite..it made me feel like like i was having a knife plunged into my heart and i felt sick..i thought that must be what i was and i hated it, i didn’t want it….a short while later there was another story about a gay outing and that did similar things to me and i thought again that must be me..it really confused and horrified me and i didn’t want that..then a short while later there was a story about a transsexual and i just went…NOOOOOOO!!! i had found myself.. i can’t say it made me feel any better but it explained why i was so different and had this deep overwhelming desire to be the opposite to my birth gender.

It wasn’t when my dysphoria started but thats another story.

The one key (not that i have always done it myself,) is to be true and honest to yourself because unless delusional issues are there you just can’t lie to yourself…

facing those truths is the scariest challenge.

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Transsexual Trucker Finds Happiness At Last

Nikki Jane Weston tells her story to the Manchester Evening News:

“I can’t wait for the operation,” she said. “It will be some point next year I hope. I’ll be off work for three months and won’t be able to walk for two weeks. My body will go through a massive trauma and I will learn how to be a woman. People say I’m nuts but it is worth it. It’s like saying I want that car and you work towards getting it.”
[…]
LAST month Nikki lost an appeal to clear her name at Burnley Crown Court after previously being found guilty of assaulting her ex-wife’s father at the couple’s marital home in Woodside Crescent, Newchurch.

During the appeal hearing the court heard how Nikki – whose 25 year marriage to her former wife had fallen apart after deciding to become a woman – had turned up at the house on February 20 this year because she was homeless and wanted to move back in.

Nikki Jane, 45, formerly known as Nigel Weston, had pushed her former father-in-law, 65 year old Peter Scholes, into a corner of the room by the throat, was said to have punched him in the mouth and knocked his glasses off. Nikki claimed Mr Scholes wanted revenge and was going to hit her because she had decided to become a woman.

But Nikki’s appeal was thrown out and the conviction for assault by beating stood.

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False Childhood Memories

Concerning childhood memories of transsexuals, a female-to-male Transman writes:

I have to add, as a 27 year old bloke, I can not be 100% certain that my memories of my inner thoughts as a 5 year old are “correct”. I believe they are, but human memory isn’t built to help us know the past, but to help us tell where the future is headed. I acknowledge and accept that these memories may be false, or at least, exaggerated by my current mind.
I choose to believe they’re not, but I accept the very valid possibility that they are.
~~Miniar

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Girl Brain

Alexia has a girl brain:

Hi, I am faced with an astonishing observation. I am a genetic male who like most of us CD,TG have a dual brain, male and female side by side. Growing up my female in me was suppressed and only occasionally I allowed it to surface and enjoy femininity. Lately though, I have embraced my female entirely(even though in the closet still)and allowed much more time for her. And here it is, as a man living my entire life I never had any desire or paid attention to being beautiful, just a regular grooming without need to look better than average or even below average, it just didn’t matter. But as a female, Oh Girl, the desire to be astonishingly beautiful is overwhelming, thin, but not too thin, body of perfect proportion, long legs Oh god give me long legs and I will go to church every Sunday (in beautiful high heels of course), face of an angel. Well I hate to say it but NONE of Above Applies to my description. But rather not focusing on my short comings as a woman, I want to know what is it that makes me suddenly so focused on vanity when in my female brain, also I wonder is it just me?

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Trans-critics Have Anxiety Disorder

People who tell transsexuals they need psychiatric help have an “anxiety disorder” suggests post-op transsexual Julie Marie:

How to turn the tables on the critics…
By Julie Marie

Many people think you’re mentally ill if you have GID. And the DSM is there to prove them right. After all, it is a manual of mental disorders and GID is in it.

A lot of what we see and read shows people out there talking about things like bathroom privileges being the same as allowing pedophiles in the womens bathroom, blah, blah, blah. Of course we know this is an irrational fear, or phobia.

Well, phobia is in the DSM too. It’s under anxiety disorders. According to one psychiatrist,
“As per the DSM-IV, a phobia is defined as a significant amount of anxiety due to a specific stimulus or situation that subsequently leads to avoidance of that stimulus or situation. Phobias are clearly related to anxiety disorders. They both present with a syndrome of anxiety-like symptoms that when exacerbated can cascade into a full-blown anxiety attack, but the difference is that phobias are stimulated by a perceived fear of a particular stimulus or situation.”

“leads to avoidance”, “perceived fear”, sounds a lot like the people who are trying to tell us we’re nuts.

The next time you’re faced with someone who says you need psychiatric help, ask then why they think that. Eventually you’ll get the the fact they simply don’t know anything about being TG and their opinions are most likely rooted in phobia.

Then you can let them know they might have an anxiety disorder called phobia and you can suggest a good therapist to help them.

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